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Also, I think you should date whoever makes you happy. As long as you realize that the person who makes you happiest in life might turn out to be positive. You are correct. But its still an incurable disease that takes very expensive medicine to live a healthier life. I don't have insurance nor could afford it. If not. Don't get raged because i don't want to leave it to chance.
Even if the chances are a lot smaller than they were 10 years ago. Honestly i feel like you are shaming me. Its freaking sex. Im not willing to die or live a life medicated just for an orgasm.Is it SAFE to date someone who is HIV POSITIVE?????
Guess i must be a bad person. If you bareback with someone you always take the risk of catching something.
r/askgaybros: This is where you can ask the manly men for their opinions on various topics. Advice. AskReddit style questions. AMA. ELI5. Everything . No, I have a very negative personality and I'd like to keep it that way. I would date someone who has HIV. But, before we would have sex, I would like to know that he is following treatment protocol and verify it with.
That's why responsible adults don't bareback with people they don't trust. If your partner cheats on you and infects you, that's on him. The risk you took is trusting them, something crucial for any relationship.
If you willingly have sex with someone who is poz, you expose yourself to the virus willingly. One risk is necessary for a long-term relationship, the other isn't. I wonder why some people don't want to take the optional risk You can't argue with how someone who takes his meds will almost definetly not infect you since the equal to the cheating partner would be the partner who stops taking their meds.
In the end it comes down to trusting your partner and frankly, you can't possibly get angry at someone who isn't willing to take an additional risk.
This isn't about being a dick to poz guys. You said it yourself, all sex is risky. Then why would you enhance that risk even more? Wouldn't it be more intelligent to minimize it? This totally would not be a deal breaker, it'sand there's so many different ways to be safe and live a totally normal life with HIV. If he's a genuinely good guy then having HIV is honestly so minimal. I don't want a boyfriend who will always carry the stigma of HIV even if the material effects of the illness isn't a significant problem in today's world.
Idiots like you are the reason that stigma exists in the first place. You do realize that, don't you? The reason guys lie and hide their status is because guys like you make them feel gross and unwanted for having it.
I cant believe some of the things im reading on here. Id expect this from the general public, not gaybros. I am just a single individual in a huge society.
I don't have the power to change society's mind, it doesn't mean I actively participate in creation of the stigma but I recognize its existence, and refuse to be associated with it.
It's not about what I think but what others would think. You're declaring to the whole of society that guys with that box checked aren't worthy of your love or consideration.
You're telling them that no matter who they might be on the inside, that one little thing makes them unworthy. Stigma means "a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person.
Stigma of HIV is not any of the things you said.
I am saying that I have a rational reason to not be with that person, it has nothing to do with love. My rational reason is that I don't want to carry the burden of someone who is associated with such image by majority of the population.
You're a judgmental and naive cunt, and your selfishness is eclipsed only by your ignorance of both society and people living with HIV. What "lifestyle choice" makes a person view other human beings the way you do? How did you become such a misinformed and bigoted fool? Were you born this way? It's funny among all the insults you've chosen "naive" while you're the most naive idiot I've seen out there. Again stigma means "a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person.
If you think this is not what overwhelming majority of the society thinks about HIV, then you're a naive idiot. As an individual, I have every right to not want a boyfriend about whom many people would think these things. What about people who were born with HIV? Or people who got it from a blood transfusion or a cheating husband? Did they make reckless sexual choices too? No, you don't consider them in your little hierarchy of who is and is not desirable.
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You assume they're all filthy whores who deserve the scorn of a moron on Reddit. Maybe when you grow up, you'll realize that adult life and love are a lot more complicated than these absurdly rigid lines you've drawn for yourself. It's not so easy to treat everyone the same way when you meet someone who defies those stereotypes. Maybe you'll learn that a person's worth lies not in his HIV status, but in how he cares for others and contributes positively to the world around him.
Or maybe you'll just stay in your bubble and continue to be a cunt. Lord knows there are already plenty of those in the world. I am repeating myself at this point. I said I cared about others' view and did not want to deal with it.
I don't care if the individual has done things that the stigma dictates or not, I just don't want to deal with it. You're not saying you won't date someone with HIV because the disease scares you.
You're saying you won't do it because you're afraid of what strangers in society might think of you, the poz person's partner. That he'll face stigma from ignorant morons, and you just can't bring yourself to support your loved one in the face of that kind of adversity? Is that what you're in fact saying?
Where are you coming up with this? That is not true at all. People can participate in stigma all while knowing that stigma exists. The issue with stigma is that people are treated differently because of it. I wanted to make this poll so people can comfortably have their say under the comfort of the anonymity of the reddit poll.
I personally wouldn't. No matter what, there always exists a posssibility of transmission, and as we saw with Darryll Rowe, some people have been known to become psychopaths when infected and will stealthily try and pass the disease on to others too.
Would you guys date someone that seems like the perfect match for you but he is with multiple doctors, volunteering for a HIV testing association in my country. Elaborate on why this would or wouldn't bother you. I am a female who has been HIV positive for 5 years. If I had advocated the use of condoms more, I wouldn't. So I met this guy a while back at a party and he was really cool. We sort of fell out of contact because I started dating someone. Now I'm single.
Also, google HIV Stealthing. Thats a thing. It's a lifelong disease. HIV is actually pretty hard to catch, especially if your partner knows he's positive and is in treatment.
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Of course dates are extremely rare because of my condition, and I'm guessing it's the same for this guy, that's the reason he mentioned being ok with you cancelling on him. I'm guessing he's more than happy to tell you everything you want to know just so he can have a shot at not being alone anymore.
That's a great approach! I would appreciate this a lot. Without open and factual communication I'd be worried and scared. Go on like this. Thumbs up. Not at all.
I actually would even consider asking for the test report or joining him to his doctor to discuss the risks. He is undetectable, went to his doc once with him cause he asked and the doc said so, and I am on prep. TBH, I dont think about it other than when he brings it up. But, yeah get on prep, add condoms for the extra safety and have a great time!
Not going to potentially expose myself to HIV no meaningful benefits unless you're having unprotected sex with lots of HIV positive women. Even if you couldn't hypothetically transmit it, one should have the right to not date someone with HIV just like people choose not to date fat people, people who. There is a lot of misinformation on this subject. Antiretroviral therapy is used to treat HIV and lower the virus's presence in the human body to an undetectable.
I accept this is what he did, and though I'm not responsible for his choice to do so, there were issues I contributed to in the marriage.
Sadly, despite all the reports I made of the behavior, little to nothing will be done unless one of these guys comes forward with a complaint. Yeah why not. They'd have to be pretty special though for me to take pills before having sex with them or whatever the process is these days.
I'd just be paranoid about it if I knew. We have this campaign in TH that has gotten really big and broad flyers, post-its, short briefs on TV, posters inside medical facilities, and so on -- highlighting how unprotected sex places you at a higher risk of catching HIV.
Yes, I would, but only if he was responsible.
Not every guy who has contracted the virus has it because they were wild and irresponsible. I would proceed with more caution than if he weren't, though. Yes, only if he told me before we started doing anything sexual and that he was managing his health through medications, check ups, exercising, etc.
He was such a nice guy. Quirky, cute, down to earth. I realized quickly after, and with the help of some of you guys here that it wasn't a bad idea. We ended up dating for about a month but unfortunately he was in a bad place since he got out of a long term relationship.
As long as they were upfront about their status, I wouldn't view it as a serious obstacle to a relationship. I was recently in a We didn't use condoms - he's still HIV. That said, if I was to turn back time and ask my 21yr old self this question - I'd probably say no, but I also knew far less back then - and quite frankly still feel a bit shitty about a sweet guy I turned down after having a few dates, then he disclosed his status to me.
If it's just someone I would have otherwise casually dated with no great interest in a long term relationship, then probably not. If he's the guy of my dreams and I could see it turning into a long term thing, then yeah, it'd be worth the risk. I'm on prep. I was showing some symptoms and I self diagnosed myself and it was just bad.
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