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Chat or rant, adult content, spam, insulting other members, show more. Harm to minors, violence or threats, harassment or privacy invasion, impersonation or misrepresentation, fraud or phishing, show more. Yahoo Answers. I am new to this site. My name is Sammi or Samantha and I desperately need help. We both still live with Mom and Dad.
Again, I can think of no better example than what my ex did with me. But again, you cannot look better than them. Okay, maybe not exactly dead.
But that nice person they might have pretended to be long ago instantly goes down the tubes. If you share things, be prepared to never see those things again, or have a fight on your hands for it. If you share kids, the kids will either be completely ignored henceforth, or used as weapons to turn against you, no matter how graceful you were about the breakup. They say that the sociopath cannot be alone for too long because the hollow emptiness of their shell-like existence is enough to drown them.
While this may or may not be true, a pattern with them is to replace a person they have lost in their lives incredibly quickly. This is actually one of the easier ways to discern a sociopath if you already have your suspicions.
Sound familiar? Do not take this personally. The love that they used to drug you with was a fantasy, and now the dream and ensuing nightmare are over. And woe betide anyone whom they give the gift of themselves to in order to shut out the screaming void from within. This is in no way an exhaustive list of the behaviors that sociopaths are prone to.
If you even suspect after looking through this list that you know or are in a relationship with a sociopath, get out of it. Good luck to you. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. They are intense and fast-moving. Whoa, slow down there! They need to control.
They will boast. If it starts to feel a little overboard however… 4. They will criticize you, subtly or otherwise. They will project. They cannot deal with it. This ties into the next point… 7. They are always the victim.
10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath
Nothing is their fault. You drove them to it, what did you expect with how you act with them… 8. Their emotions are more important than yours, whether they act like it or not. This is called gaslighting and the minute someone does this to you, you need to exit Stage Left. They are hysterical creatures. When they feel they can no longer control you, they will control the way others see you. They will replace you as soon as they possibly can after you break up. Because sociopaths have antisocial elements to their personality, this can cause a range of problems in the workplace.
It is difficult to treat this disorder because people with ASPD rarely seek treatment, as they do not think that there is anything wrong with the way they behave. When treatment is given, it is usually when individuals have entered the Corrective Services System and are forced to participate in treatment.
No medication is known to be helpful in the treatment of this disorder. However, some medication might be useful in order to manage some of the symptoms. Talk therapy could be helpful for people with ASPD. It may include anger and violence management, substance abuse treatment and treatment for other mental health conditions. Source: Way Ahead.8 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath
Is there a difference in behaviour between the sexes? Manipulation and control tend to loom large as character traits of a sociopath stock image. Can a sociopath destroy you? Dating someone who displays anti-social behaviour can be problematic for a number of reasons, the psychologist revealed.
Depending on the level of the sociopath there are those who are low or high-functioning the damage can range from sexual promiscuity, physical, emotional or financial damange to longer-term plans that allow the aggrieved person to exact revenge.
If people do feel they have these signs, seeing a psychologist would help greatly. If you are concerned that someone you know is showing signs of Antisocial Personality Disorder, it is important to seek help from a skilled mental health professional. Talking to your doctor is a good place to start. If you'd like to find out more or talk to someone else, here are some organisations that can help:.
SANE Australia people living with a mental illness — call 18 Lifeline anyone having a personal crisis — call 13 11 14 or chat online. Suicide Call Back Service anyone thinking about suicide — call Source: Health Direct. That does fit absolutely with my last sociopath ex. His father drank and cheated repeatedly on the mother. The father later died, he has contempt for his mother, but seems to look at his father in a hero state whilst acknowledging that this behaviour was wrong.
You are right, that there needs to be far more punishment for those who lie in court. I love this, thank you for posting. Your observations are what I noticed too. Especially in relation to childhood. I think that lying becomes like a safety blanket, where they feel in control, because quite simply for most of their lives they have felt out of control.
The only way to have control, is to have control over others.
Thank you for taking the time to offer such a well thought out reply, i really do appreciate it!! Thank you! This makes so much sense to me. My ex has 6 sons and 2 daughters from his first wife she passed away. He is still involved with fraud with unemployment, federal and state taxes he appears to be getting away with it, though I have reported him. He refuses to work.
He has one brother and 2 sisters and all of these children had a different father. The second has alcohol issues, the third has drug issues, the fourth passed away last fall but had a lot of angerthe fifth is just like his father, and the sixth is only 8. The fifth son hates his father, he is 17, and it hurts him deeply to be compared to his father, and yet he exhibits the exact same behaviors.
I have feared for awhile that he was going to end up a sociopath. He was trying to take control because he was spiraling out of control. It also gave me clarity as to why my ex is a sociopath…I knew it was a deep seated anger and now I see how it all ties together. I tried to get him the 17 year old into counseling and he went twice and then refused to go anymore.
I agree with everything the both of you have said and Abigail…I wish you could get lawmakers to see what you see…then these sociopaths would be held accountable. To the both of you…thanks…. Abigail, this is right on the money. It helps to clarify my situation.
Sep 14, - Sociopaths aren't exactly known for being the best type of partners. They tend to focus more on themselves than anyone else. Many are.
I have looked to early child hood problems to understand my girlfriend and am absolutely certain that the problem lies there. I have tried to explain this to my girlfriend with no success at all. I am certain that on the course she is on her outcome will be much the same. We are separated now and have a 4 year old daughter which makes no contact an impossibility. I have provided a home, car and of course money since she will not work.
There needs to be better laws that hold people accountable for adultery. We are separated because of her affairs and the law currently holds me completely responsible for her. I am currently doing my best to dislodge myself from my ex girlfriend but I must admit it has been a difficult year. I believe it is a job of getting the heart and mind to work unison to accomplish this.
Thanks again for the post.
There should be a lot more women sociopath specific writing I would appreciate this. Yes my son and I are victims of Parental Alienation. I fear for his future greatly. He hates his birth mother mebut he has no real concept of WHY.
My brother is dating a sociopath
In my situation this is the result of continued domestic abuse long long after the relationship ended. The father continues his control and violence over me by using our son as a weapon and tool of war and retribution.
We are going onto our fifth year of separation, 3 nearly total lack of any contact — apart from my annual postal birthday and xmas gifts — each being received but unacknowledged. Yes a bit off topic but thank you for highlighting this growing problem. Parental Alienation is child abuse, pure and simple. I ask a friend who has know the father of my son since he was 19 and he is now I did message and ask my friend in his opinion did he think the father of my child was a sociopath?
I am so sorry Cat, losing your children, is the most painful experience that any mother can ever go through. I read a good book about this years ago, but I cannot remember the name for it, perhaps do a google search? I think I bought it on Amazon, I cant remember what it was called. A few others have said that same to me. Took me 18 months to realize that my girl friend was a sociopath. Working on getting out of it right now. She has two kids from her exhusband who love me dearly and whom i love.
The biggest sign for me right away was that her stories always seemed to change. If i asked her the same question four times it was four different replies. The most hurtful part was every fight was my fault! They refuse to not win and will never back down. And they will make you feel terrible. She totally has the sociopathic stare, to a T!! I just realized that. The other thing is the constant need for male facebook attention.
Friends with every exboyfriend even though they were cheating douche bags. The two huge things to me are a things that bother me are my issue, not hers to change. She posts Christian messages while posting bikini pictures from 10 years ago.
The sex thing is HUGE, constantly telling me how lucky i am that we have sex often and how her male friends only get sex once a month. She repeats this often. She matches the exact male description you posted. She takes zero ownership and accountability even over inconsequential stuff. The best part is when they wrong or hurt you, a normal person just apologizes, but a sociopath gets mad and attacks.
She is a product of a sordid childhood in which both parents were into some very bad stuff. So you are still with her? The most crazy time with the sociopath — is when you are trying to leave the relationship.
You are quite right now they use god and religion, it is really quite crazy, I do need to re-write posts to make it gender neutral, as it really does apply to both sexes. I expect you will find it difficult leaving the children?
Most likely anyway. She will do anything to control and to win. That is the most important thing. When are you planning to leave?
May 13, - If he's an asshole and dangerous, tell her so, but remember she makes her own choices Should I let my brother know that he is a sociopath?Do married sociopaths or psychopaths love their spouse? May 22, - As I am female and hetrosexual, most of my post are written using the context What is the difference between male and female sociopaths? He has one brother and 2 sisters and all of these children had a different father. Nov 20, - Many people use the word 'sociopath' flippantly to describe people they dislike, but Are you guilty of 'sneating'? The latest dating trend that. .. with her family at Nobu in Malibu The supermodel was joined by her brother.
Do be aware that the worst of the crazy behaviour will come out then. Done, friday night. I left town. Total Rage! Saturday afternoon, accused me of cheating. I laughed out loud. Sent me a text to revisit something we talked about last night. Oh well done Joseph!!!! How are you feeling now? Trust me! Dude — you should call up her ex-husband. I bet the exhusband lets you see the kids when they are with him. Talk about a good way to exact revenge on her! It took me 15 years to wake up.
You explained what I went through exactly. It is nice to see some writing on female sociopaths, albeit it would be nice to see more. I was in a relationship with a girl for the last six years who I now know is a sociopath. I am a normal guy and very much believe in an equal partnership, financially and emotionally. In otherwords I do not have loads of money and I never dated golddiggers. What I offered was a strong and loving family, a lack of baggage, and zero trust issues.
It made me the perfect target for a girl who was extremely attractive, younger, and coming out of what she described as an abusive relationship where she was cheated on and betrayed.
Nov 9, - These are the signs that you are dating a sociopath (all examples are physically assaulting his own brother (because he frequently beats him. Sep 13, - It is such an ego boost for the sociopath to feel as if they are . Emails to my mother, my brother, my friends with a fake apology that he wished. Jul 25, - But chances are you've met a sociopath — after all, according to Harvard psychologist Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door, one in.
It took myself and my family a year or two before the initial lies started to counterdict each other. She had lied about her past education, work, travel, and general upbringing. Finally she admitted to me she had been a stripper, but had stopped when we began dating. I loved her, I wanted to believe her, and most of all I thought she could change with help as at this point we were well into all the signs that have been described on this site and I was flopping between insanity and love, I was so incredibly confused at why she would attack me and accuse me of things I had never done, like cheating.
We set the slate clean and prepared to move forward with honesty — it wasnt an ideal situation, but hell, what is I told myself…and I really care about this girl, we have an incredible connection, its worth the fight. I became determined with my help she could find something she loved she was working as a bartender and host, or so I thought.
What ensued was another several years of lies, manipulation, and a temultuous relationship that turned me into at times a monster I never thought I was capable of becoming. I broke up with her a dozen times over these years, but was unable to stay away. Yes, she did use sex to manipulate me to get back together, but I truly loved her or at least the side of her she had created for me, if I am understanding properly.
I am still unsure of the true extent of the lies and betrayal over six years. She certainly had not stopped stripping for all or periods of it and I found this out when she texted me to tell me she was doing so. I went to the club she said she was at and found her in a private room lapdancing a guy with her top off…it was the worst moment of my life, she was on drugs, laughed and gave me the finger. Why that was not the end and why I am still a year later pushing from grieve stage to grief stage without acceptance, I am just starting to understand — sort if.
She played me so well, telling me what I wanted to hear, sleeping with me just often enough. Afterall, I broke up with her, broke her heart, this was all my fault she said. My value weakened and her respect for me deteriorated as I became more depressed and easier for her to manipulate I think at times just another client so to speak. This is not a girl who looks like a stripper or acts as one, she is everyone would agree naturally beautiful and equally as charismatic.
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She gave up the lease on her place, changed her phone number, and I suspect has easily convinced her friends I am crazy and obsessed with her who knows what elseas I did most certainly send a flurry of messages since that time, ranging from anger to begging. I get gossip regularly it seems how she had been cheating in me with dozens of guys over the years…I think for me this is the hardest now, I met many of the guys she is rumoured to have cheated with, several many many times.
The club scene wasnt my world, it was hers. The only contact I have had with her since this is an email, which I begged her to send me many times and finally threatened to tell her new BF she had been with me when they had started dating — it told me in no kind words it was over and I should move on…an attempt at closure for me, which insanely has not worked.
Jun 11, - Well, your a pebble in the rough with this, to see you took the time to type all this you love your brother, and the girl is a (unt and he shouldn't. Dated a sociopath for a while. Best way I can describe it is Now she has been disowned by her brother and is never allowed in my home. Is she knocks on my. Nov 6, - Yes, I'm a sociopath and I'm the first to admit that dating me can be an interesting experience. It's often difficult to interact and compromise with.
I am a smart guy who dated very good looking and intelligent girls all my life, and I am still confused how this has happened to me and why I cannot seem to move on? I am insanely embarrassed and lonely, it is rather pathetic and I long for the stage of acceptance, unsure it will ever come. Hi Zippy, thank you for taking the time to write to me.
It sounds like you have been through quite a lot in those six years!!! It is also difficult to come to terms that you had been dating someone who is really, not the person that she made herself out to be.
The continuing to hurt you through social networking is very common for male victims of female sociopaths, as they write how much better they are doing without you, with someone who is richer, more successful, or whatever else it is that they think will press your buttons. It is sad, but to them this is just a game. Her new partner is also a victim to her game. Lying about you, saying that you are obsessed with her, is all part of her strategy and no doubt she is playing victim of all YOU did to her, making you doubt yourself, and think that you are the bad guy.
Your not. Sociopaths are disordered people. Their brain thinks differently, they see life as a game, and others as players in their game. If they are not winning and getting what they want with you, they will find someone else to play the game with. Which means, block her number, block her social media, block email.
Mutual friends are negative for you. It wont help you to build self esteem. Know that you are not the only one. Each time she hurts you, it means that you are still in the game for her to be able to.
The only way to truly start healing, is to block contact, and focus on you. You CAN do it…. I just got out of a relationship with a female sociopath. She was just as you described to a T. She came in my life like a whirlwind of sex, seduction, beauty and desire but with a sad past. Cheating ex boyfriends, college pregnancy, strict parents that misunderstand her. She conned me out of some money and then stole my credit card and ran up some charges. Then just as fast as she came she was gone. Of course it was my fault that the relationship was over.
I tried to talk to her, tried to get her back but was met with a cold shell of the person that she used to be. She tried to disappear however I have filed a police report for the credit card fraud and theft. Hopefully the police can finally get her off the streets and save her next victim whom I hear is an overweight doctor that she keeps going back to.
Good luck with that, you might not get money back from her, but your credit card company might give it back. My bank gave me money back that he stole from me. She ordered things from an online company on her cell phone. They fully cooperated with me and gave me all the details plus the IP address. I traced the IP address to a tower about a block away from where she works. Apparently she tried to steal a large sum of money from him too however his bank flagged it as fraud and stopped the purchase.
Sometimes she even made plans to see him and lied to me, saying she was with family or friends. How do I know all this? I accidentally saw one of his text messages one saturday, when she left her phone out in front of me. I looked at it expecting it to be her girl friend, who we expected over, and who frequently got lost on the way to our place. I confronted her, wanting to know who he was, and she lied, saying he was some weird guy friend from college.
I tried to give her a chance to come clean, but she continued lying, until I presented her with the evidence. She confessed to seeing this other man on and off, for most of our relationship. She said she liked the attention.
I threw her out at that point, even though she was crying and begging me not to end things. How could I not? She had be lying to me for almost six years.
Her phone number is blocked, as is her email addresses. My friends have told me not to look at it that way. We frequently had problems, usually stemming from our sex life, and would fight about it. They tended to involve her inability to get aroused or lack of needing sex very often.
I had blamed myself, since this was also my first serious, adult relationship I had dated a few women before her, but they never lead to anything seriousand would eventually assume I needed to be more patient. Now I realize it was that she was being fulfilled elsewhere.
I paid most of the bills, bought most of the food, and owned most of our furniture. I also lavished her with nice gifts, and like I said, was planning to ask her to marry me this summer. Boy do I feel like a damned fool….
Hi McC thank you for your comment. It is good that you have blocked off communication with her, this will allow healing and focus on you and your life. Although the hurt and pain remains, that you put all that time and effort into someone who was not being honest with you.
I know that hurts. Its usually best no matter how hard it is to focus on you and not the sociopath!! Then you will be the winner, as you have the ability to love and to feel…. After reading some of your entries, and also some other stuff concerning sociopaths, I actually feel a bit better. I felt like I was crazy, as I was the only one who seemed to think she was a sociopath. Friends and family told me that she was just a girl with issues and needed to get her head sorted out.
I still find it very difficult to get back out and meet people. I was never great at meeting women to begin with, but am extremely skittish now. Hi McC Just wanted to say I have pretty much exactly the same story as you its pretty horrific what they can do! I even found out the same way as you through txts on her phone it came as such a shock. We had only moved out into a flat together 3 months before.
Stupidly I paid for pretty much everything and all bills were in my name. I even got all furniture and stuff she wanted for flat even things like expensive hair straighteners top make up kitchen tuff she wanted etc. Its crazy how they can get you to spend all your money on them and I barely thought about it Id never do that normally! She got away with things because she was younger and had a low paid job which she kept changing! I also chucked her out when I found out she was cheating on me with some guy she had met like one week before in a new job.
She pretended to go to work met up with him wearing all sexy clothes then even got me to pick her up outside work with her uniform back on.
I even showed her the txts id read and she had some weird story about it was someone at work trying to cause trouble! And she kept deleting messages on her new phone saying it was broken! When I chucked her out after coming back to the flat because I thought she had him round but she lied saying it was a gf she laughed at me and gave me the most evil stare in the world and walked off with this guy she had just met I heard she moved in with him seriously like they met a few days before!
She had been going on for months about marriage and babies how much she loved me had a holiday booked we were buying clothes for it few days before these people are so crazy. Its been over 3 months no contact for me now im way better still not feeling like seeing anyone new I really thought this was my soul mate its so sick what they do! THis reassembles to what I went through. She went to work in a distant community and give me calls, Skype, texts, e-mails and all every day.
One night, she called me. I could hear she was in the tub having bath. Water was audible on my cell. Then I heard someone coughing behind. A man. Then he started talking. I asked explanations. She replied that the water is getting cold in the tub and she has to get out. And she hung up. What are you thinking? Later, when I challenged her, she said the lines were crossed. Then she said I was hearing voices all my own.
I never knew who was in her bed that night. SHe never accepted any wrong doing. She said I am obsessed and jealous and have to seek some therapy. That made her nuts… She was calling her sisters and talking about all these bs, that I am overly jealous and so what.
But never told the true story. I placed a recorded under the table to record her lies whilst I was out working. These people can destroy your life. Be very careful. This is not a game. If sex is too good, beware. What I understand from these posts here, sex is generally good with these vampires. Watch yourself.